Ok I think I get it (but maybe I'm totally off base here). (Sorry T, swear I wasn't overanalysing, I was actually thinking about something completely different in the shower and then this thought came to me)
Is the rubber band thing about assuring himself he still has the "freedom"? Like, he gets a bit closer...and then needs to prove to himself he still has the freedom to go off and do something on his own...
I find myself often looking at rental listings online after he's gotten closer to me, and imagining my life without him and moving to live near the sea. Just to remind myself that I will do great without him.
Me 28 / H 28 M 1 / T 2.5 BOMB 12-3-14 "I don't feel like myself any more" Still living together, separate rooms.