Hi Alpha, I'm so sorry S is still in hospital - poor lad. I think in family emergencies like this, it is best to try and put your own issues about the R to one side, and help the family through it.
S doesn't want to lie ill in bed whilst you and W argue by the bedside. If your D needs taking to school, take her to school. When your S is in hospital - that isn't the time to threaten turning off the gas. In fact if your kids are living in the house, turning off the gas and water presumably isn't an option.
You may want to think about taking the focus off your W and focus on being the great Dad you want to be for your kids. That is something for you and for them. Ultimately in these sitches, your relationship with yourself and with the kids is the most important thing - Your M may or may not survive this, but you'll always be Dad to them.
Hope S improves and is home again soon. Take care Alpha.
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