Good to hear from you Julie!
I think you made the right decision getting your own place. So many questions...has the harassment from OW stopped? Does H still say he is "gay" so he couldn't have been having a PA with OW? Have you had to call the police and keep that trail so you will have a better case? No matter the answers, be careful. Now that he sees he can't control you he may lash out even more. Please take care of yourself, Julie. I'm looking forward to reading that book and the happy ending!