Oh wait.. perhaps you're noticing and commenting on this?
"H: Well, I'd be here too, and if we were not shutting each other out, then we could talk and be friendly with each other. Isn't that what you had in mind?"
After saying the first sentence, here, I deliberately appended "isn't that what you had in mind" knowing full well that it was NOT what she had in mind, because it actually wasn't what I had in mind either. I honestly wouldn't expect her to do anything other than chat with OM online the whole time.
