Read the welcome post Cadet posted. There is a link about detaching. I had to read it several times before I started understanding any of it. It will help. I will read up on your situation in a few. Listen to sandi, she knows her stuff.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"