Sandi, this is a tough one for me because of my own history. When my father left, I had no idea that a divorce could affect me. I was a boy who suddenly discovered the changes in that what I had called a family. On my birthday and my "Konfirmation" (when you become part of the German evangelical church) he stood outside of our house, the motor still running. He not even got out of the car. I got my gift through the car window. And although I was happy about the gift as a child, as an adult I hate this memory. This is not how a family should celebrate a birthday. He could have taken me for a walk or some ice cream, just showing me that it is not a duty but about me. My W has two close friends who have been divorced. In their cases their new life went well and that might be one reason for her to believe that a divorce would not affect the children very much. I on the other hand still hate those inner pictures. I know that one day he would have to deal with reality. So I will sleep about this. Right now I would say that it is not about her but I will double check my heart.
Me 46 W 45 S16 D14 S10 M 20 yrs in June T22 12/14 sleeping in different rooms 01/07/15 she said she wants a separation 02/26/15 I moved out
