Confused 2

[Joe46]

If you mean, does what I did(boundary) change anything my wife is doing, no. She is still in her office last night and will be tonight. The blankets are still covering the cracks. I did not expect her to drop it and say " oh honey, I am so sorry. I am done with this job". I did what I did 100% for myself and I felt so good about it that I was not freaking out everytime my wife freaked out the past 2 days.

I completely understand the abuse thing. I kinda wish I did not bring that up now. I was just sharing what she said while she was raging and about to drive off. Actually it was text that had alot of bad spelling! I think it was said because older D did finally talk to her mother that day and said nothing about her job or her as a person. She did tell mom that she was tired of her bringing her in the middle of her problems with me and that she felt mom was acting immature. She told mom that she just needs to sit down and talk with me and she just wants us to work things out.