Moved too fast? Now what?

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Bing,

Your WW sounds just like mine. The script is just amazing. It's like they all got together and said, "This is what we're going to do. We all must do the SAME thing to our husbands." It would be more fascinating if it wasn't happening to me.

Anyway, W and I are telling our kids tomorrow. We met with a therapist months ago to discuss the discussion. Basically, fill the kids full of B.S. is what the therapist told us. I didn't like the guy at all to be honest. The first thing he said after we told him about our sitch was that some people shouldn't be married.

He did have some good points to focus on. Focus on that it's not the children's fault. That mom and dad will always love them and protect them. Keeping it general and to not let the reasons be known. If your W is like mine, she blows everything under the rug and makes this all out to be no big deal. Hopefully, that will be a bit of advantage tomorrow.

The therapist also said that the kids will constantly ask questions out of the blue about specifics. Just keep answers general and positive. Even if you're about to have a nervous breakdown, you have to refocus and put on the happy face. I hate the thought of having to do that. Seems like lying.

I would be interest to hear how others here have discussed it with their kids.

I try not to talk to family too much. My W told me she told her mother last night and her mother was not happy. I was shocked she hadn't told her already. My parents pretty much spew in her direction, which I do not like at all.