Anxiously waiting for it to fall apart

[dejavu2]

Really struggling tonight. H has got interest from a company 5,000 miles away(8 hr time diff). How can he expect to be a part of kids lives? (Note he is talking to some companies which would only be 5hr time zone diff). Divorce me - fine! But walking out on the children stinks! He is blaming me that I won't move to US so that kids can be near him. I refuse to take the kids away from the only life they know and their friends on the chance he will spend time with them when not too busy traveling with work. He found very little time over the past 3 yrs to spend with them as work is a huge identity point for him. He still doesn't want to tell the kids and I think they need time to process all this before he buggers off. S is going to be heartbroken as he idealises his father.

I have no clue how much of this is real for him as still acting like a family - not even moved out of bedroom.

I realise that he is in the selfish man-child phase but making decisions which take him out of his children's lives is just wrong.

i see the journey he needs to take to grow & own his emotions. Just so sad that he is running away from the kids too.