Sorry to report that I've not been away b/c my situation has improved. Safe to say it has gotten worse. Since last update, a few months back, the following has happened:
W has brought OM over to our house, with our 2.5 D, several times. OM has gotten an apartment and moved out of his house. W is over there every night she's not home w/ our 2.5 D. **BY THE WAY** My WAW has ZERO idea I know about any of the above.
As of now, my atty wants to file for D soon, because she believes we need to make steps to protect my D from being around the OM. Atty believes we can't / or should not have approached my WAW about the OM because my WAW is not in a logical state and we'd expose the upper hand. Sad to say, I agree with the atty.
I want to have custody of our D but only b/c WAW is making some bad choices. Don't want WAW to NOT see our D, just need someone to take control. I feel like I am on an airplane, something has happened to both pilots, and now I need to take over the situation and land the plane. Of course, my D is the passenger on this plane.
On a side note, WAW has asked to meet this coming Sunday (aka tomorrow) to 'talk'. My sources tell me that she's trying to let me know that she wants out of the M, even through she has never said that to me. She has always stood by the "I don't know what I want" position. I am confident that she's trying to get me to be the one that pulls the trigger, most likely for guilt, I would think.
Still haven't reached out to the WAW to say "I love you + miss you" or any of that. We talk / text regularly because of our D. Sad to say this '180' method really has not made any results since we separated 11/27/14. WAW truly believes she has found her soul made and continues on that path.
Otherwise, been feeling fine, doing as best as anyone could do. Spent time out w/ friends when not on D duty half the week. Work is busy and going well too. Just standing over the brink of what surely will turn into a battle when we move forward to file for the big D. Everything has been "quiet" since we separated so I assume that had to change at some point.
A lot here, a lot to digest, so if anyone wants to provide insight I'd be happy to read it. Sorry have been away so long. The board is a wonderful source of insight and I value any / all I have been lucky enough to share with.
Standing by,
M: 44 W: 35 D: 2.5 M +5 | T 10 OM + Affair admitted 11/11/14 Separated 11/27/14
