Anxiously waiting for it to fall apart

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Your h sounds like he's passive-aggressive if he was dragging his feet and stonewalling your plans in your personal life. I'm glad to see that you are going to go ahead w/your plans for the next few months. They may change, but nothing is set in stone and those changes may be good ones for you and your family.

A holiday away will be good for you and I wouldn't worry about him while you are gone. He's a grown man and should be able to take care of himself. If not, he can eat at McD's or some other fast food joint. As for his laundry, he can do that too.

Once you get all of the schedules and logistical information sorted, give him a copy and then don't remind him again. He will have a copy and he can refer to it or else he will lose out.

It's very frustrating living w/someone in crisis, but to add passive-aggressive behavior to the mix is even more frustrating. I learned to just leave him right where he was if he wasn't ready to go or found excuses to drag his feet. He soon learned that I wasn't playing the game of reminding him it's time to go, etc. It took me many years to finally figure out why he would screw things up and yet, if he really wanted to do something like go to a ball game or go out drinking w/his buddies, he would do whatever he was suppose to do perfectly, but couldn't do it right another time when I would ask him to take care of the task. Passive-aggressive behavior at its finest.

Bottom line, take care of yourself and be there for your children. Your journey will be different than his. You will become more aware of your surroundings, learn to be more patient, become more compassionate and willing to help others that may cross your path and yes, even more independent. You will be come wiser than you ever imagined and when it's all said and done, you'll be able to look back and be able to see some of the red flags that were there all along, but because you were too close to the situation, you couldn't see them waving in the wind.