It sounds like you've had a rough day. It seems to me, of course I'm no expert, that you did the right thing in telling her you don't want D. My last session with DB coach said be consistent over D, if you don't want it and have said that, then continue to say that when the topic comes up.
Do you feel you were pursuing at all? Any idea what may have prompted her sudden decision? Is there any way you could give her space for a few days to get to miss you? Any relatives or friends you coukd visit for a few days?
BD - 30TH JAN 2015 S - 30TH JAN 2015 PA CONFIRMED - 16TH FEB 2015 (SINCE AT LEAST OCT 2014) CONTINUAL TALK OF D ME: 31 W: 28 T: 10yrs M: 4.5yrs D:5, S:6