hold on! - 8

[u-turn]

As I expected, it didn't go well so far. I talked to her about NC and transparency - said it exactly how I wrote a few posts back.

She said nothing at first and walked away. Came back and said that she feels like we are back at the same spot again. she cannot re-open wounds and will not write a letter. "You have no idea what it's like to sit in a meeting with him. He knows it's over" She said - If this is a deal breaker for me than so be it.

I told her that is exactly what I want to do, get past this "same spot" and move forward.

She asked me where I got an idea like this.

I told her that I have researched recovering from affairs and this is a step.

She brought up old wounds of hers (spew) my family, my old work habits, her wanting me to change, and how I didn't address these with her when she wanted me to. "So now you want me to do something. I will not write this letter. I appreciate all of the support you have given me in the last two weeks (she thinks that has been where my support has begun for some reason) but I will not do this"

She left to go cool down.

I guess we are back at the same spot and if we cannot do something real at this point - not just brush everything away, we need to be done. This is what I though MAY happen.

Not reacting, not chasing. I will see if she changes her stance.

Could use some advice.....