So things are getting worse. My W was pretty upset the other night and ambushed me on talking about child support which she seems really angry about. In the end it all seems to come down to money for her. Even after I explained that I was not prepared to talk about this, and needed to get the kids bathed and into bed she still persisted. She brought up the fact that I had changed the locks, and I explained it was a boundary issue. When she finally realized she wasn't going to get me to make agreement and move on her time table, she began to yell. I stopped the conversation right there stated "Ok this conversation is now over please leave" At first she refused and continued to yell. I again stated "this conversation is over please leave". That is when she dropped the "make me". Now this whole time I remained calm didn't raise my voice, didn't yell back. It's not worth it, it's not respectful.... And honestly it's one of my 180.... I used to let her goad me into a fight. I would get mad, start yelling, and usually say things that regretted. Almost always whatever I said would be used against me at some later date. So it came down to a split second decision, and having some experience with this kind of situation with friends, I stepped back picked up my phone and said "if I have to call the cops I will". This enraged her more and there were a few comments about "oh your such a big man" but ultimately she left.
This is now the second time in a week I have had to draw boundaries and lines. Two days prior she began yelling at me on the phone and got the same message "I'm not going to let you talk to me like that. This conversation is over I'm hanging up good bye". Honestly I'm looking for advice here, support, or comments. This is just getting ugly. I will tell you this was all followed by a long conversation with my lawyer the next morning. I also thing that when you take a step back and look at the event as I whole one thing rang true. At one point I asked her what she wanted the response I got was "I don't know what I want anymore". I think this is very telling, and might be reflective of the fact that over the last week I've stopped a lot of my own behavior that let her cake eat. I've pulled back and started to act as if we are divorced, I'm on my own path and pulled away from her. So any thoughts? Why all of a sudden has this reached a new level of terrible? Good sign? Bad sign? Is this just making everything even worse?
M:34 W:34 D:8 D:5 M:10 T:15 BD: 10/10/14 D filed: 10/21/14 PA/EA:09/2013 EA:09/2014 - on going (online)
