Gwen - I'm new to all this as husband just BD end of January. I can relate to many aspects of your situation. You have many people who want to see you become better for yourself. Getting a career again after so many years is fantastic. I am getting inspiration from your journey.
H: 48 Me: 47 Married: 19 yrs T: 20 yrs 2 teen-Ds and S H-MLC (started 2012) and H-Unemployed (11/2014) D-Bomb: 2/2015 H left country but hasn't moved out: 7/2015 I filed: 7/2015