Toot Va Bien!

[Sotto]

Thanks so much Starsky and Wonka. It sounds as though we are pretty happy with the validation part of the email:

Dear H, I'm so sorry that you feel your life has run off course. I truly only wish happiness for us both. I understand that you want to simplify your life and don't want to work and live in different places.

I do want to tell H that I don't want us to D, and have re-worked the next part:

Of course you are free to make your own choices. I respect your wishes and if you file for divorce, I won't stand in your way. But divorce isn't what I want. I love you and I hope that we might still be able to save our marriage.

I'm then not sure about how I might spell out what H stands to lose:

You said that you've never been as happy since we were together. It is true that we've loved, cried, laughed and supported each other and SS. We've become a family, and we've grown to love each others' families and friends. I think these are the things that truly matter, and that we both stand to lose. I think in years to come, we will be glad to have fought for that.