Hey Luke. When I was in the thick of all of this, I remember thinking that he took so much from me. Not just the money, my 25th wedding anniversary by sleeping with the ow, the future I had dreamed of, but, also my belief in the strength of our love.
And I thought, I am not letting him take one more thing. He couldnt have my memories. He couldnt taint what I knew to be true...that we had loved each other deeply and that we shared some wonderful, amazing times. He could say all day long the we didnt, but, I knew my truth.
Your memories, your love and marriage are all part of your life story. Dont allow her to take those from you.
I know that it is hard when you see glimpses of the girl you love. She is in there, buried deep, surrounded by brokenness and sometimes, who she was seeps out. Its ok, you know, to remember.
Even after all this time, I still sometimes find it hard to understand who he became.
Luke, you are still a little worried about her reactions....stop rolling your eyes! She got angry because she saw you happy and content and engaging with your teammates and it reminded her that she isnt any of that. Not your problem.