Thanks Starsky. I agree he's still foggy. And I don't get a sense that he even wants 'us' to try again. Would it be odd to "throw that out there" and start talking about getting together, if he isn't even suggesting we do this?

Things with OW have never been great. She's been on/off/on with OM the whole time. I think H desperately wants that to be different - but it just isn't.

I definitely want to tell him I don't want us to D - but I guess it's how I phrase beyond that.

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus