I come from a personal belief of acting instead of reacting. It serves me much better. I don't always do it well, but I do try.
No one is saying to get a divorce. I don't believe anyone here would ever say that.
However, you have to be prepared for the consequences of actions...
I am afraid that you missed my point. For that, I apologize.
Cat, yes I am done with my pity party! I feel much better!
I am prepared for the consequences. I was prepared a few days ago. I sat down and figured out how I would live and about how all this would affect my family. I have been thinking of nothing else through all this mess. I have been posting what my wife has been doing as a result of my enforced boundary because I was checking to see if this is normal. I am also venting. I get concerned when my wife talks about health issues that are going on. I am bad about second guessing myself. Maybe some insecurity issues. I have also dealt with hurts and insults from wife. But I still love her. She does not mean the things she has said. We all have things to work on. No one is perfect.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
