So, H asked me for a divorce today and I need to respond (see paraphrased email above) - Any vets advice would be very welcome!
Important context is OW returned from abroad in Feb. Since then H has returned my stuff from our city flat, and removed my pics from our MH.
I found text for an email from him to her in Jan. Saying he loves her, wants them to be together and she needs to break it off with her OM. Their R is rocky!
In late Feb, he emailed me saying he had been 'stupid' - got caught up in something, lost sight of what's important. And has never been as happy since he was with me.
I haven't seen H since Sept. He and I have only spoken once since then. I haven't said ILY, or that I want to save our M since last autumn.
Here's my draft reply:
Dear H, I'm so sorry that you feel your life has run off course. I truly only wish happiness for us both. I understand that you want to simplify your life and don't want to work and live in different places.
What I need to say is that I love you, and I don't want us to divorce. I hope that our marriage can still be saved. And if you turn back to it, you'll find me ready and willing to work on anything that undermined our happiness and wellbeing.
Of course you are free to make your own choices. I fully respect your wishes, and if you decide to file for divorce, I won't stand in your way. But I won't agree to a divorce, and I won't file for divorce, because the ending of our marriage isn't what I want.
Love, Toots.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
