Is it best to go COMPLETELY dark? Part of me worries that this will push her away once and for all, but then again, she's pretty much gone already.
Regarding lawyer, no I do not have one yet. Our case is so straightforward that it doesn't make a lot of financial sense to spend $5000 on a lawyer. However, it would allow me to defer the legal conversations and get me out of the loop.
Kramer- I'm no Vet and would defer to one here - but the conversations with your wife don't seem to be helping anything, right? I'd be inclined to at least try more darkness.
As to the lawyer, yes your situation may be straight forward. But as an outsider reading about you retrieving an SUV by removing the steering wheel lock and her sending her son to retrieve it...I dunno....that sounds like lawyer territory to me.
