Newbie needs advice and encouragement

[Kramer]

Kramer, I am not a vet. All I can tell you is I feel for you. It is hard to know what to do. But I have just recently found out how to start thinking about myself in this mess and my children. My wife is throwing the guilt trip on me also. I really got it tonight when I told her my plans for the next week. But I am thinking of myself now just like she has thought about herself all this time. I have also come to terms with whatever happens. I don't want a divorce either. But I also don't want to be someone plan b or share my wife with someone else. Maybe you should decide what YOU want. Not sure if that helps, but we are here for you. Hopefully some of the vets will help you out also.

Joe,

Thanks for chiming in. I agree that I need to start doing things for myself, and to quit thinking as a married person. It is so hard to do, because that's what I identify myself as. Definitely a learning process.