No, it is not in conflict with LRT. Read page 177 of DB book and you will see that pulling back is exactly what I am talking about. There is no need to be rude or vindictive towards her. You just need to give her space. you need to stop doing things in order to see what her response will be. You need to stop trying to show her your best side in the hopes that she will snap out of it. As Sandi said, she can only see the wrong in you right now. No matter what you do. This is why you truly need to begin to do things for yourself and your children. Her responses, while confusing and oft-hurtful, are not your concern right now. Try not to get sucked in by them (as I was). I repeat - she is not behaving in a rationale fashion. The more you try to get close to her, pursue her, or try to convince her, the more controlling you will look to her. Believe me - I have tried it.
Originally Posted By: koalada
RAI isn't this in conflict with the LRT? To be a man my wife enjoys spending time with?
Actually, you go the quote wrong (nice try, though ). You want to be the MAN she would be crazy to leave. There is a big difference. Pleasing her will not help. Trying to be her friend will worsen things. The only way to do this is to work on yourself. GAL. Act "as if" you are moving on. Your actions will speak louder than any words. Give her reason to suspect that she is making a huge mistake.
We all want our old spouse back. That person is gone. This is your chance to reinvent yourself and become even greater than you were before. Go out and do it.
). You want to be the MAN she would be crazy to leave. There is a big difference. Pleasing her will not help. Trying to be her friend will worsen things. The only way to do this is to work on yourself. GAL. Act "as if" you are moving on. Your actions will speak louder than any words. Give her reason to suspect that she is making a huge mistake.
