Don't see how I can win this.

[Calibri]

.......you're mad that your W is with her AP, when she doesn't have the kids?

Am I reading this correct?

If so.....

what is she supposed to do when she doesn't have the kids -- stay at home?

Look. This isn't a pissing contest. You're mad that your W is not acting the way YOU think she should. In fact, it appears that you're mad because she's not acting the way YOU are acting.

Yes. It's unfair. But what exactly can you do to make it fair to you?

Stop focusing on your W. I can understand. I really do. But the only thing you are doing is making yourself worked up and even more angrier. And yes, you have a right to be angry. But you also have a right to let it go and have peace. And you can start having peace by STOP FOCUSING ON YOUR W's EVERY MOVE.

I know you want to vent - but you seem to oscilate between anger and being a victim. Is that what you want to be?

Didn't someone challenge you to not post about your W for a week? Have you been able to do this? Could you break that into a smaller goal. Say -- for the next three posts you make -- you don't mention your W, or her AP.

I'm not trying to be mean - but I'm trying to help you see that your anger is not good. I know I'm young, and you may think WTF does she know -- but I spent a good 10+ years of my life holding onto anger. And you know what it got me? Absolutely nothing but a chip on my shoulder which likely contributed to the state of my marriage with my H right now.

What do you think?