I just got an email from H - various things about legal arrangements all fine. But..

*He's trying to get his life back on track
*He needs to resolve what he must to move forward and be happy
*He doesn't want to live in two places any more
*He isnt good at resolving tough things and can let them build up
*He doesn't think it's right for us to formally S and resolve finances without Divorcing
*That would create a possible future problem - or at least perception of one
*He is as lost now as ever he was in respect of relationships
*There is no impending marriage but he just needs to know things are settled properly

I think this must be the time for me to respond and say I don't want to D - but won't stand in his way if this is what he wants. Do you guys agree?

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus