When I talked to older D yesterday, I told her she needs to deal with her mom and whatever they are talking about. I told her the truth about how I felt and that I have been working to save the marriage for a long time. Other than that all I did was state my feelings about the job she was doing. D is old enough to deal with her mother. Especially since mom is involving D in all this and telling her things that are not true.
As far as me working on trying to better myself so I can be a better husband, I am learning from DR, Love is Tough, Love Languages and Hold on to you N.U.T.S. I am praying every night. I am validating her feelings if she ever shares them. And I am taking in her spew, but not arguing about it. I am not responding to it right now.
My thinking at this point is that I am wanting to stay married, work on our marriage, build trust if it is possible and learn to love my wife like she wants to be loved. But I have also accepted the fact that it may not happen that way. I have prepared myself that if we have to divorce than I will do my best for my kids and love them the best I can. I will also learn from the mistakes I made and try to better myself.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
