Yeah ... I am at that point .. do I stand, do I just move on, contrary to what the MLC'r including mine says about the whole "I haven't loved you for XX years" I don't buy it, I just can not think that 24 years together was a fluke. ...
... after the game I get my phone and W sent some nasty's (TM)...but it kind of pissed me off ... so I told her I did not appreciate the TM , she fired back about me showing S how to respect her. I stopped and did not reply, I really wanted to tell her I was not interested in respect lessons from her considering what she has done the past year ... I realized that was judgmental and anything I would say was just going to fuel it more...
Hi Caliguy, yes my W told me after the BD that she was miserable in our marriage for over 10 years, which sounds similar to what your W said to you. But yes, we remember the good times and also the not-so-good times, but certainly a more clear view of the past. She's trying to justify to herself her actions. Don't let your W's words throw you.
Good job on catching your words to W b/c they were "judgmental". How are you working on yourself so those judgmental thoughts become less frequent? Patience.
