I appreciate the feedback. I am aware that I am only able to attend to my own behavior, not his. This is a struggle I've had for years, especially in relation to his drinking and his behavior around employment (or lack thereof). I try to remind myself that I must take care of ME, but it's tough. I tend to be quite rigid and perfectionistic. I feel like the rest of this week has been trying to buy time until the next fight. I want to avoid that fight and actually start feeling happy in this marriage. I do have the DB book, I've read the first part so far. Tough to find time alone to read without DH there to see what I'm reading.
