Confused 2

[Joe46]

My control issues have been probably out of fear. I have probably tried to control conversations when wife and I argue so I get my point across and I did not see hers as much. I have some control issues with her jobs sometimes. Mostly because she puts them before her family and we never see her. D also commented on this and said the same thing. I did not force her to quit ever. I just said that is was kind of upsetting. In the past I have always tried to make my point of view seen more than hers. I have been selfish by not sharing my truck or throwing a fit when the kids steal snacks from my side of the cabinet. I fully admit I have not showed her as much love as I should have. But I thought I was, but it is my fault for not asking.

This is why I think I should have never gotten involved in a relationship. I don't know what the right thing is to do. Now I am back peddling again. I drove her to take this job and look for attention. I drove her to separate from me. I was feeling so good about myself. Now she is texting me for the keys to the safe so she can get her birth certificate and marriage license and change her name.

Last night she was going to the ER for bleeding because of her kidney. I offered to take her. She said she did not want to bother me since she was a bad person and got chewed out from her daughter this afternoon. Maybe daughter is happy that I am her dad and doesn't want to lose another one. I would never abandon them now anyway.

I struggle with all this so much. I don't know if wife is really having a medical problem or if she is making it to be worse than it actually is. But I m still concerned. But she does this to reel me back in. Once I enforced taking her to the hospital last nigh, she was going to wait and go today. UUUGGG!!!