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[Joe46]

Thank you cat. I see your point. Through this whole situation, I have been sitting here trying to deal with it. Trying to just accept what she is doing for my kids and because I don't want to divorce. I laid in bed many nights saying to myself to just hang on so the kids won't have to deal with this situation. My kids are what I am thinking about. I over heard a call one night that made me sick. It was with someone that liked looking at pictures of young girls. Not 18 or 19. Way younger. The things my wife was saying to this person for money made me sick. I have a 11 year old D upstairs sleeping.

I understand what you are saying about the anger. I am emotionally attached here because I love my family and love the person my wife was before all this started. I am working on enforcing my boundary. But I am not angry toward her. I am frustrated because now she is doing everything to try to hurt me because I enforced my boundary. Basically if I would have just kept my mouth shut and took care of the kids and patted her on the back for doing this job, than there would be no drama. I feel like I am going backwards now.

The only reason I said anything to older D is because she called me because my wife said I kicked her out. D has been talking to me everytime her mom involves her. It is not me involving her, but I have hidden this occupation from D this whole time and allowed wife to portray me as a bad guy. I have just taken it through this whole situation. I have admitted that I have been selfish in our marriage and have things to work on. D says that she has also seen her mom do plenty of things to me also. I am not running away from this marriage, I am the one trying to save it.