So I've been chewing on this, and mostly I am pretty happy with me. But there are some things I want to change and things I am working on changing - overthinking is a huge one. My friends are *always* telling me I overthink and i know it's an issue. Smothering and testing I'm not as sure about, I'm trying to observe myself and see. I thought being critical was one although when I apologised to H the other night for being over critical he said I wasn't. Argumentativeness is another one I'm working on.
Perhaps it's an issue of patience, too. I know I am impatient
I don't see any of those traits as a reason to no longer want to be married to someone. As others have said, I think this is more about your HUSBAND'S issues than YOURS. Keep working on those things, just to make yourself a better person and a better potential mate, but keep walking forward in confidence knowing that this is your husband's journey that he needs to figure out. All you can do is know -- and let HIM know -- what your boundaries are if he continues to want you in his life as his wife.
