Again - re: the holiday, I wouldn't look at this WRT your W - but if you'd love to take the kids, why not ask? Would your W like to take them? If neither of you can - go and enjoy a solo holiday I would say!

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus