Anxiously waiting for it to fall apart

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Job - sounds like our men were very similar. It has worked well for 20 years because although introvert, he would try to engage with others. Since MLC started in 2012 he has gone further and further into his hole.

D15 is also an introvert. I am trying to help her with trusting others and not taking life too seriously. There is nothing wrong with being an introvert, however if you want to be accepted by other people, you have to be willing to put yourself out there. H really struggles with her because they both shut down on each other.

The notion that H has become a man-child is really fitting. It is like he is a teenager! I feel more like his emotional nurturer than his partner. He takes emotions/energy from me like a child however offers very little in return.

We had a very open conversation a couple of nights ago where he admitted this all started back in 2012 when we were renovating our main house and 5 of us were living in a 600sf small house. He had work pressures which led to him being replaced and we just put our cash savings into the renovation. (although we still had lots of money in investments/retirement). It was too much for his introvert needs. That is when he went down the rabbit hole.

He has had interest from several companies this week. It is amazing to hear him talk with clarity and articulation about business plans and strategies with including 100 day business goals; however he is unable to put any of this in to his personal life.

He is still talking about going back to the US some time in April; however still doesn't want to tell the children. I am trying to keep busy and hold on until he leaves. Unfortunately, once he leaves I don't see there will be any chance for R and I don't think he will be healed enough to want to R before he goes.

Still can't find any signs of any OW. I have always believed that his mistress was his work. He defines himself 100% by his job and how much money he has.