So let me ask some advice from you who are reading this.
Getting out and being busy has indeed reminded me that there is life beyond these walls-- and even though I'm not financially independent just yet, I *will* be able to cover the mortgage for some months if D happens now. So I have reason to be fairly fearless.
As has been made evident from the above posts, her immediate reaction to my 180 has been to run directly to OM and now spend every single weeknight with him until late into the night. (And she gets up for work at 5:30.) And I fully expect her to spend, again, two 13-to-15-hour days with him on each of Saturday and Sunday.
This situation has entered "ridiculous" mode. We promised the MC two weeks ago that we would table any talk of D for two months, but this seems excessive. And I know that 180 is supposed to work over weeks, not days, but if we keep heading in this direction she'll just be gone.
Has anyone here dealt with someone so deeply in the fog as this? Is there no action that can be taken except for D? I'm thinking that something drastic is called for, but I'm not sure what else could happen except "stop it or D", to which of course she will answer "Go ahead and file."
