So you've had a lot of good comments from various people on this, so I'll try not to rehash what you've been told already (and I love Vanilla's take on love being ever present)
So what's bothering you really? And why the drive for some kind of closure/certainty?
It strikes me that things ate pretty positive in a lot of ways but for whatever reason your W isn't making that step you would like her to and then you seem to be beating yourself up with anxiety over the reasons why not.
Does it matter?
She can't be anymore done than she already was and so you've been living with this for a long while now and doing a progressively better job of being kind to yourself. You've been doing a great job of being a good and improving version of yourse
Is part of this a fear of the potential for OM? Is it thing related?
I guess it seems there is something more motivating you than just your Ws comments / statements
Anyways apart from that I hope your doing well.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
