vge1, I'm so sorry to read about what is going on in your sitch. I apologize for not knowing the entire story, but have read this thread.
My heart breaks for you that you have to go through this now. Please, please put the focus on caring for yourself. We cannot control the mlc behavior at all. We have to give it to God. So right now, you should control what you can and that is putting yourself in the best situation for recovery.
My heart also breaks for your kids. I know how upsetting it is for them. They should not have to endure that. I am sure that they are learning many wonderful things through your example: strength, courage, respect, faith, love...
He is clearly behaving in an utterly selfish way. I'm sorry for that. Keep yourself surrounded by positive energy and people.
