I read your post, and I think you misunderstood what I was saying. I was not perceiving her note as a sign of affection. Rather, she is asking me to take out the trash when she could have easily done it herself. I know quite clearly that my W does not want a R with me. I actually found it audacious that she took the time to write a note, when she could have just as easily taken out the trash in the same amount of time.
My question was how do I respond? if she asks me to do household chores and I do them, am I just facilitating her cake eating? If I refuse or don't do them, will she continue to build a case against me?
