To Pursue or Not

[Arcola]

Just got off the phone with wife. Things turned quick. We were talking about our tax refund and I asked how would she like to spend it. She responded half and half. That was cool with me, so I simply verified with, You get x amount and I get x amount? Then the conversation took another tone and took off. She started with its not like I'm going to spend the money, I'm going to use it on credit card debt. Then she goes on to say how this financial situation makes her angry. How she doesn't like to discuss the finances because it makes her angry, working two jobs, her moving into a new place, her paying on a Lowe's debt for work done on our house she no longer lives in, etc. She also went on to say how our house she pretty much created (back yard, additions).

I let her say what she had to without lashing back. I tried to validate and said I don’t know what its like to have to move into a new place and establish everything new. I don't think I said anything or validated on how she felt about her financial situation. I do know its starting to slim the pockets for me though.

At one point she got to talking about our house and how people who were over complementing it a couple of weekends ago for S1 birthday party. She went on a rant about how she made the house this or that for what it is now and what the kids enjoy. I gave her the credit that the majority of the ideas and actions to get them in motion/completed were hers, however we both funded those things happening. I also went on to say its our house and I don’t look at it or refer to it as "my" house as she does in conversation or to me.

Our convo ended because she had to get back to work. Guess I got to look forward to this more.