Here is a link to my first thread. It just locked today, so you will not be able to post on it. I am starting a new thread. Just need to come up with a nifty name. Suggestions anyone?
One thing that a lot of us do here is mind-read. It is not helpful. I understand why we do it - we are trying to make sense of someone else behavior. Nevertheless, you should avoid doing it because it only makes you more reactive to the bizarre things your W will do. It also prevents you from focusing on yourself - which is your main priority right now. I have wasted a lot of energy mind reading when I could have been doing other, more productive, things. Accept that your W is not behaving in a rational fashion. Believe half or what you see, none of what she says, and keep your distance. Then, work on yourself.
Have you read DB or DR yet?
yours in strength,
RAI
P.S. try to stick to the facts in your posts a bit more. That quote you posted really gave me the heeby Jeebies. Avoid over-interpretation of events. It will help others when they are trying to advise you.
