Just bumping this. I was down yesterday, but when I got home from work he was acting like nothing happened. I have been reading the forum, trying to get all the acronyms. I was given the DB book years ago from my old therapist, during the time of our separation. Going to try to read it but have to do so on the sly because I don't know what he'd say if he saw me reading it. Part of me still feels like he's only still around because he can't support himself without my income.
Add this piece of advise to validate what you are saying
Just keep POSTING and one other bit of advice from Wonka that I totally agree with.
Originally Posted By: Wonka
Get DR/DB book. Keep this to yourself. DO NOT share this book or this site at all with your spouse. It is your playbook and not to be shared with the "opposing" team.
It is important to clear the search/browsing history from your computer on a daily basis to prevent the possibility for your WAS to stumble on the DB site and discover your posts here on DB. Erasing the search history will protect your posts and you as well.
We have seen too many Marriages blow up in pieces after the WAS discovers the DB site or DR book. Why is that? It is because the WAS thinks, erroneously I might add, that you are "manipulating" them back into the M.
Keep the DR book and DB site very close to your vest.
