[gogofo]

Hard to say how your husband would take it. I know my W and I would go out every weekend for a dinner date. After a while it just became dinner and stopped being special or date like. Where we live there are literally about 10 places to eat a decent dinner and only one or two are "upscale" for our community.

Having a picnic would be great and a lot of fun; quickly eating by a dumpster, not so much. I guess it all depends what the sacrifice is for. I would eat by a dumpster to attend a fun concert or have a special evening, but not in the name of saving money.

We stopped talking much and the dinners just became part of the routine.

I assume you are somewhere in a big city as you talk about taking the train. I would assume there are numerous places that could be an adventure to eat at that would not be too pricey.

I like the idea of having a date night account. For me it would take the stigma out of spending the money if it was already budgeted for.

I know I really enjoyed when my W would take me out on a date or pay for dinner. When we dated we used to take turns and it touched my heart. When money is so important to me, the fact that she would spend her money on me made me feel special. I don't believe in the man always paying for things, especially if they both work.

It is too bad your H does not like to cook. My XW and I both really enjoyed it and had more fun staying home and cooking than going out most of the time. We can cook and eat better things than we can buy in our community.