Mozza (10) + Links to success stories

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I don't want to live in the fear that a slip on my part means she will cheat or leave again.

I disagree or don't understand when you say that it won't matter if she cheats again because I will be my best self and know that I'll be fine if she leaves again ("But once you find yourself, you won't be saddled - or at least feel burdened - with the same questions you have right now. Because you KNOW you'll be okay, no matter who (or where) your W ends up being."). I know that I'll be fine and always have, time heals everything. Yet, I never want to hurt like this again. Also, I value commitment and long term relationships and I want to be with the same person for as long as possible, support and trust her. To me, every year adds value to a R, and I want to be with someone who shares this assessment.

Mozz, I understand what you are saying. I voiced a similar concern on my thread. The response I received was awesome. This feeling is a response to your fear. It will diminish when you trust YOURSELF. You trust that what you've learned and the changes you've made will carry you through anything that comes your way. You are strong. Yes, it would be painful if W cheated/left again. You can't control that or know if it will happen in the future. You can only trust yourself and how you will respond if it does.