[susana4]

And you know what? I feel better for it! My M is over but I do believe DB has made me a better person and I am so thankful for it, and this site, and everyone on it. You guys rock!!

This is most important: DBing is not just for the period where we try to save our M or ourselves: it's learning a new way to be so that these things have less chances of happening to us. Every time I make a special effort to be different, to be better, I wonder if I could live like this for the rest of my life. Because DBing shouldn't be a trap for the WAS where we act right for a few months and, once their back, revert to our old ways.

I do worry about this sometimes, Mozza - backsliding. Well not so much that I'll revert once he's back (lately I don't think he's coming back) but that I will revert once he's gone. But I really do want to keep up my changes!