Been reading all the above back, I would also say the one thing Im not anymore is prepared to be shelved if we did reconcile.
Right now, ok, we're not together.
If she chooses not to investigate a reconciliation, that blows but we go our separate ways.
If we do then her pushing me away and her relationship and, now, s's relationship with MIL are the only things I want her to look at. I cant and wont dictate what she should do about MIL apart from look at it for the damaging control it is (this is nothing new, her friends have told her this long before she met me).
I have and will continue to treat any and all issues she has or will raise about me, my behaviours with her (or s) seriously and tackle them but the above are the only things I cannot cope with if we reconciled as they are a huge part of how we got here.
Last edited by edz; 03/12/1512:58 PM.
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015