Alpha and WAW - part 2

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Well, just been for kids. As I pull up W comes out of house alone saying she has something to ask: she's not getting on with her mum (that didn't take long haha) and once again wants to move back home and I move out. I said she was free to move back home but I wouldn't be moving out. She asked why I wouldn't. I said because I own the house too and can't move in, out, in, out on her every whim. She threw a fit and said she could be nasty and go to a solicitor cos she has the kids and has a right to move in if she wants to but can't live with me so I have to move out. She said she'd have to move into a hotel. I don't think she can afford one, that's just plain crazy. Again, I repeated she could home with kids but I would be staying, and whatever she does regarding solicitors is her decision, and that I didn't want to discuss it further in front of the kids. It was a 30 sec conversation. I greeted her with a warm hello when she first approached. She was of course distracted by her imminent question.

She came with me in car to school with kids. Instead if making.conversation, for the most part I had a cd on and sang along loudly. I also spoke to the kids about our trip out tonight. They are very excited. I did say one or two things to W, day to day stuff, nothing major, just not to appear ignorant.

Her life seems no bed of roses right now, bills to pay, falling out with her mum, can't get her own way over house. She made a call en route to school to fellow school mum to meet at school and go shopping. We arrived at school a little early and she got out of car to make a secret call to someone. I'm learning not to try and mind read who to. Hopefully I handled this whole thing well, stayed calm, in control, set a boundary, validated her decisions without agreeing, got kids' excited over tea, remained upbeat and polite to W before and after her requests.

Finally, she also asked if I had separated out my stuff that I wanted. I said I hadn't (I'm in no rush). She complained it was never going to happen. I just said I didn't want to talk about things in front of the kids. She huffed and said you never do.