"I also told him I wouldn't stop the divorce in any circumstance because I understood our marriage was dead"

Have you told him that if he is willing to go NC with OW and recommit to the M, this would stop the D?

I'm conscious that if he is so confused, it may help if you can plant your feet firmly, be very clear about your boundaries, and stick to them - I know it's hard though...

Also, it seems that you are trying to understand why your H is doing X or Y. I think the simple answer may be - if he's in MLC, what he does may not make much sense right now at all....

Sounds like you are doing very well with GAL and living a full life - despite the challenges of your sitch - good for you!

Remember, the darkest hour is before dawn....hang on in there Pink xx

Last edited by Toots; 03/12/15 07:53 AM.
T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus