Then tell her "I'm afraid it's not that simple anymore." Or, "Hmm, I'm not sure how I feel about that anymore."

Then come here for careful advice.

Listen to me: you get ONE SHOT AT THIS. The single biggest mistake on these forums is betrayed spouses letting their wayward spouses back too easily.

Re-read that.

If she's sincere, she's not going anywhere. And if she's NOT, you want no part of it anyway.

STALL.

Starsky

M57 W 57; D30 D28 S24 S20 GD7 GD2 GD1 GD5m GD1m
BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07

At the end of every hard-earned day, people gotta find some reason to believe. (Bruce Springsteen)