[susana4]

'I'm not saying I'm not attracted to you, I'm saying I want to ML in a sober, loving way'. How do I get that message across to H?

Tell me if I am wrong, but why not say this ^ to him? Would direct communication be so bad? I know if I was told this I would refuse the best bottle of wine in the world. Maybe say it in a teasing way, but remain serious about it. You do deserve to ML in a loving way.

Hmm, well that makes sense, and I *do* like words and stating things but then I thought we were supposed to use actions, not words? So is it wrong to just out and out state that? Man, I get myself in a twist sometimes with DB principles!

I was going to suggest cooking something special for BD. This is what my XW and I would do all the time. I think it lets the other person know how special they are to you.

He seems to love you cooking and it is something that he could not get anywhere else.

If he is into cars and racing, etc, maybe share this video with him. It is one of the most infamous car videos ever made. Don't know if he has watched it before or not. Maybe something like "I ran across this video today and it reminded me of something you would like. Enjoy while I cook dinner."

vimeo.com/34039780

You could also accidentally work in some seductive moves like bend over at the waist to look into the oven instead of squatting down. Wear a great perfume and lean across him really close as you serve him the dinner. Keep up with some light flirting.

Thanks so much for the link! I don't know if he's seen it but I think he'd love that video and it's a great idea to share it with him!

Ha, I do the bending over move all the time. The perfume thing's a good tip, thanks!
I am a pro at teasing him! The other day before he left for his ski trip I decided to play a game with myself and see how many times I could 'excite' him in the 20 minutes before he had to leave for the airport (the answer? 3 times! Thought I did pretty well, lol). Before we got together we worked together for a few years and he was my IT guy, I used to flirt with him to get him a lot, just for fun, and to get my computer fixed faster lol. He was pretty much eating out of my hand the whole time, or so the girls I worked with used to say, they always said he was in love with me and would do anything for me. So I know how to flirt and tease him, but this re-attracting him thing? That's new! And hard!