Utterly Gutted Part 2

[susana4]

Hi Frank, glad to hear you are doing better and feeling so positive! Sounds like the counseling and ADs have been effective and that's good, hope you're keeping up with the counseling.

I just wanted to say though that I would caution you about the dating. Everyone moves at their own pace and will obviously be ready at different times *but* it hasn't even been 2 months since BD and that seems awwwfully early to be dating to me. I don't think it's fair on the women you are seeing (are you really ready for them?) but nor do I think it's fair on yourself, you need to give yourself time to process this, work on yourself and then move on. I'd encourage you to look within and ask yourself why you're dating at this point - is it to cover up the pain?

Also this statement was a little concerning to me --

I NEED to be loved again and I NEED someone to love.

I'd encourage you to dig deep on that one. You NEED to be loved? That doesn't sound healthy. You are a whole complete person on your own. As I've heard others say - you're the cake, ok? Any R is the icing on top. Sounds like you're confusing the cake and the icing.