Hi Pink, I didn't appreciate the context. So are you and H going to use the MC to try and decide whether to D or give things another try? Is that the plan?

Interesting that the judge said that and didn't move things forwards? Did something happen at the court appearance to suggest this may not be what you both want?

It still sounds as though your H is conflicted. He doesn't want to fully lose the M or R with you and he doesn't fully want to let go of OW either... If he is in MLC, as has been suggested, I'm conscious that he may still be doing some pendulum swings...

You're sounding pretty strong though Pink - still dancing etc. Of course you feel a lot of pain. It is one of the most painful things that people go through in their lives. None of us can manage upbeat the whole time. We all sit in the bath and cry, or lie in bed and cry. And that's no bad thing to let it out.

As you say, the main thing is to maintain strength in your interactions with H and it sounds as though you are very determined on that aspect.

I'm so glad you're posting again, and I hope the MC moves things forwards for you both. They always say on these boards - choose a MC carefully. Choose someone who is pro-marriage and solutions oriented.

Take care my friend x

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus